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Tools for Conflict Resolution

“Can I have that when you’re done?”

When siblings argue over the same toy, taking turns or sharing, implementing a few easy phrases will mitigate a more peaceful playtime. Support their language development in handling conflict. Young children are seeking the language tools and guidance for how to handle issues when they arise. You can model for them and guide them through these tough conversations.

“Jack, Jane has something to tell you.” (adult)

“I didn’t like it when you took my airplane.” (Jane)

“did you hear that Jack? It sounds like Jane didn’t want you to take the airplane out of her hands. Let’s ask Jane if we can use it when she is finished.” (adult)

When siblings get frustrated with each other, they don’t always rely on their language to communicate their upset. You can address their behavior as a means to find out what the root of the problem is.

“When you hit Jack, I can tell you were upset about something else. What did Jack do that upset you?”

“Jack, did you like it when Jane hit you?”

“Let’s tell her that you didn’t like it when she hit you.”

“It sounds like no one wants to be hit, we can use our words instead.”